Low Libido? Testosterone isn’t the only answer.
- Lorrie Barnett Fissenden
- Jul 25
- 2 min read
Are you (or your partner) noticing that sex isn’t as exciting as it once was? Here are some helpful tips to rekindle your inner spark.
Give Yourself Grace. Remember that having a lower sex drive is completely normal as you leave your reproductive years. I think it’s always helpful to remind ourselves that there isn’t necessarily anything wrong with us if we don’t want to jump in bed with our partners 24/7. Relationships evolve over time, and lower hormone levels aren’t encouraging us to make any more babies, so, of course, our sex lives will also change.
Get To Know Yourself Again. You’ve spent the last several years taking care of everyone else, so now take some time to do something you want to do! Having some space away from your partner and your familial responsibilities will let you decide what you actually want, when it comes to romance.
Have the Right Supplies. Lower estrogen levels decrease the elasticity and moisture of your vaginal tissue, making intercourse painful. Vaginal application of an estradiol cream like this one improves the health of your vaginal tissue. If you’d prefer to avoid hormones, this moisturizer is great as well. Lubrication is also key! If you’re using a condom, it’s important to use a water-based lube like this one, but if no condom, you can use coconut oil, grapeseed oil, or this.
Cultivate Desire. Years of a similar routine can make intimacy a bit boring! Make a conscious effort to connect with your partner in new ways (like holding hands, writing love notes, taking risks, and preparing new foods for each other), and watch the spark ignite again.
Be Open to Other Possibilities. You can have intimacy without penetrative sex. If sex has become too painful, try other things together, like mutual masturbation, orgasmic meditation, or tantric love.
Try Acupuncture. If you’re not feeling like yourself, you won’t want to be intimate with anyone else. Let me help you get your spark back! Schedule your free discovery call today.
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